If you want peace, as in peace of mind, you will learn a thing or two about psychological miscues and guilt trips. Many times, people use this as a nice tool to get rid of you or to make you feel something that they feel. And it is getting wack. More importantly, it is a miscue that mis-fires everytime, if you are aware of it.
I was having a conversation with a lady and she seemed to reach for something, inside me that is. I wasn't sure what she was aiming to get or what response she wanted. However, I was totally aware and assure of what response I was going to give. Typically, I am a peace keeper...so I prefer to respond in a way that keeps peace and temperaments calm.
But no, Miss Lady insisted that I held some type of resentment towards her, be it that I did not get my way. She even insisted this as I told her everything was fine and neither of us need not worry.
(Sidenote: I'm not sure why people in the dating arena feel as if, others must wait while they live. Incorrect! Single people must live and live independent of others temperaments. And please, if you are single and honest and are sure of where you stand, live freely. Even if someone tries to give you a guiltrip for your actions, just know, it is a emotional miscue!)
Now, back to not getting my way. By the time an adult, becomes just that--- an adult---we've experienced not getting our way, I'm sure. By the time an adult matures and has dealt with not getting everything we may want, we develop minds that no longer react as kids do, so we do not throw temper tantrums and cry. No big deal. Therefore, resentment is not a typical, normal response for someone that considers themselves an adult.
However, upon hearing her say and insist I was "resentful" I began to think of the ways in which people cannot accept simple yes' or no's as an answer. I am a normal, human being and I believe in the simplicity of things. I realized that sometimes people need a story to tell and they just are not willing to deal with simplicity. So, they must conjure up something make believe and insist that you take a role in their cast, even if you prefer to just watch. This is where guilt-tripping comes handy and they need you.
But, you must not comply. Just be a spectator and politely decline. Why? It is Psychological Miscue and if you want peace of mind, do not let your equilibrium be shaken by this kind of thinking. Misery loves company and anyone seeking to issue out a guilt trip...needs company.
This is normal for our "fault" oriented society. And I say, ease back...and remember that many times you are not at fault for the things some people will insist that you have done. Especially in the case of individuals that seek to keep peace and balance. For those troublemakers, enjoy the results of your creation. For those that do not create trouble, remember this one jewel and generate a result of peace.
Later.....
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