If you want peace, as in peace of mind, you will learn a thing or two about psychological miscues and guilt trips. Many times, people use this as a nice tool to get rid of you or to make you feel something that they feel. And it is getting wack. More importantly, it is a miscue that mis-fires everytime, if you are aware of it.
I was having a conversation with a lady and she seemed to reach for something, inside me that is. I wasn't sure what she was aiming to get or what response she wanted. However, I was totally aware and assure of what response I was going to give. Typically, I am a peace keeper...so I prefer to respond in a way that keeps peace and temperaments calm.
But no, Miss Lady insisted that I held some type of resentment towards her, be it that I did not get my way. She even insisted this as I told her everything was fine and neither of us need not worry.
(Sidenote: I'm not sure why people in the dating arena feel as if, others must wait while they live. Incorrect! Single people must live and live independent of others temperaments. And please, if you are single and honest and are sure of where you stand, live freely. Even if someone tries to give you a guiltrip for your actions, just know, it is a emotional miscue!)
Now, back to not getting my way. By the time an adult, becomes just that--- an adult---we've experienced not getting our way, I'm sure. By the time an adult matures and has dealt with not getting everything we may want, we develop minds that no longer react as kids do, so we do not throw temper tantrums and cry. No big deal. Therefore, resentment is not a typical, normal response for someone that considers themselves an adult.
However, upon hearing her say and insist I was "resentful" I began to think of the ways in which people cannot accept simple yes' or no's as an answer. I am a normal, human being and I believe in the simplicity of things. I realized that sometimes people need a story to tell and they just are not willing to deal with simplicity. So, they must conjure up something make believe and insist that you take a role in their cast, even if you prefer to just watch. This is where guilt-tripping comes handy and they need you.
But, you must not comply. Just be a spectator and politely decline. Why? It is Psychological Miscue and if you want peace of mind, do not let your equilibrium be shaken by this kind of thinking. Misery loves company and anyone seeking to issue out a guilt trip...needs company.
This is normal for our "fault" oriented society. And I say, ease back...and remember that many times you are not at fault for the things some people will insist that you have done. Especially in the case of individuals that seek to keep peace and balance. For those troublemakers, enjoy the results of your creation. For those that do not create trouble, remember this one jewel and generate a result of peace.
Later.....
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Maybe your agenda as you...is all about arguing!
So much for getting along. It seems like two years ago...that was the plan. New President, New Agenda. We cheered two years ago, now we shriek and cry. Our beloved President has tried many attempts at getting along with people, co-workers...who simply want to argue.
On my facebook page earlier in the week, I commented on how shameful it is to have one's fate determined by people other than themselves. I like you do not know much about the political process and upon watching any political sitcom, news briefing or show, have learned that there are a thousand and one groups for which the government and politics run through. One of these groups (Republican dominated) decided it was best to cut unemployment benefits for millions of people and families, right before Christmas. Next on their agenda, was the freezing of all new bills until tax cuts for the rich are discussed. I believe the GOP is responsible for this.
Have you ever been in argument and said "Damn, this person just wants to feel the rush of an arguing, because we really aren't discussing anything"? I don't know about you, but I have. And this new Republican front and power shift, is just about that. They just want to argue.
Earlier in the week, President Obama held a meeting on Tuesday to discuss unemployment benefits and tax cuts. Prior to the meeting, I was watching MSNBC and a lot of the key affiliates going into this meeting were on a news panel and this is where I came up with my belief that some people just want to argue for the sake of arguing. Many of these people are like professional facebook whiners, they get paid to just rant and rave and argue for the sake of arguing.
Let's see. People don't have jobs and they qualify for petty cash, called unemployment benefits. That's right. It is petty cash compared to the expense reports that these politicians have when decorating offices, having parties and charting jets and other expenses on their lists. Let's just say, the weekly pay out to someone on unemployment, is probably one one hundreth of the amount a politician spends on office supplies. Not to mention the rich. Those needing tax cuts--"really"! The maximum unemployment check is roughly $400.00 per week. We know what rich people think of $400.00....not to big of a deal "right"! I mean it only make sense if you make $500,000.00 per year or more that this is a small amount.
So, for the sake of arguing....they take away unemployment and freeze other bills, just to prove a point. Like any worthless argument, the details don't lie. It's obvious who needs help and who should be helping. I remember the saying, "to much is given, much is required"! I guess that's a lie. I should read "to much is given, much more is needed to be given"!
I bet these dogs for politicians salivated at the lips for the chance to argue with greatness (Obama)! Like the real peasants of the world, they couldn't wait to sit with the King and "disagree"! These guys and gals are so worthless and useless. At least we know the "grinches" who stole Christmas.
Sad to say, but if I am not sure of the reason why people disagree. Maybe it is race related. Maybe they hate his political style. Maybe they hate his popularity or demeanor. Maybe they are just "haters"! Maybe...they just don't want to get along. I do not know. What I do know is that we have a President in Barack Obama and he is doing his best to lead, and many followers do not take his orders to well and it appears that they argue, for the sake of arguing.
I would think that a politician would fall in line of the leadership and conduct themselves accordingly, in a best effort to serve the people, more importantly-disenfranchised people. However, it seems that being poor or simply in an economic rut means you come last. According to logic, this shouldn't be true. But remember, those that argue for the sake of arguing...never use logic as much as they choose to rebel for the hell of it.
On my facebook page earlier in the week, I commented on how shameful it is to have one's fate determined by people other than themselves. I like you do not know much about the political process and upon watching any political sitcom, news briefing or show, have learned that there are a thousand and one groups for which the government and politics run through. One of these groups (Republican dominated) decided it was best to cut unemployment benefits for millions of people and families, right before Christmas. Next on their agenda, was the freezing of all new bills until tax cuts for the rich are discussed. I believe the GOP is responsible for this.
Have you ever been in argument and said "Damn, this person just wants to feel the rush of an arguing, because we really aren't discussing anything"? I don't know about you, but I have. And this new Republican front and power shift, is just about that. They just want to argue.
Earlier in the week, President Obama held a meeting on Tuesday to discuss unemployment benefits and tax cuts. Prior to the meeting, I was watching MSNBC and a lot of the key affiliates going into this meeting were on a news panel and this is where I came up with my belief that some people just want to argue for the sake of arguing. Many of these people are like professional facebook whiners, they get paid to just rant and rave and argue for the sake of arguing.
Let's see. People don't have jobs and they qualify for petty cash, called unemployment benefits. That's right. It is petty cash compared to the expense reports that these politicians have when decorating offices, having parties and charting jets and other expenses on their lists. Let's just say, the weekly pay out to someone on unemployment, is probably one one hundreth of the amount a politician spends on office supplies. Not to mention the rich. Those needing tax cuts--"really"! The maximum unemployment check is roughly $400.00 per week. We know what rich people think of $400.00....not to big of a deal "right"! I mean it only make sense if you make $500,000.00 per year or more that this is a small amount.
So, for the sake of arguing....they take away unemployment and freeze other bills, just to prove a point. Like any worthless argument, the details don't lie. It's obvious who needs help and who should be helping. I remember the saying, "to much is given, much is required"! I guess that's a lie. I should read "to much is given, much more is needed to be given"!
I bet these dogs for politicians salivated at the lips for the chance to argue with greatness (Obama)! Like the real peasants of the world, they couldn't wait to sit with the King and "disagree"! These guys and gals are so worthless and useless. At least we know the "grinches" who stole Christmas.
Sad to say, but if I am not sure of the reason why people disagree. Maybe it is race related. Maybe they hate his political style. Maybe they hate his popularity or demeanor. Maybe they are just "haters"! Maybe...they just don't want to get along. I do not know. What I do know is that we have a President in Barack Obama and he is doing his best to lead, and many followers do not take his orders to well and it appears that they argue, for the sake of arguing.
I would think that a politician would fall in line of the leadership and conduct themselves accordingly, in a best effort to serve the people, more importantly-disenfranchised people. However, it seems that being poor or simply in an economic rut means you come last. According to logic, this shouldn't be true. But remember, those that argue for the sake of arguing...never use logic as much as they choose to rebel for the hell of it.
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